In interpersonal relationships, we often expect to receive equal responses from others through kindness and respect. However, reality doesn’t always align with our expectations, as we can’t control the actions and thoughts of others. When faced with disrespect from others, feelings of anger, rage, and a desire for revenge might instantly well up inside us. But these reactions won’t truly solve the problem; instead, they’ll plunge us into endless disputes and suffering, thereby disrupting our own feng shui energy.
The Nature of Malice from the Perspective of Feng Shui Magic
On the journey of life, we’ve always advocated treating others with kindness and tolerance. But when it comes to those harboring malice, tolerance is not a wise choice. Ideally, people should have enough mental resilience to resist malice and be courageous enough to fight back. Malice, in essence, is an attitude or behavior filled with harmfulness and ill intent. Some people, after making a joke with ill intentions, might casually say, “Don’t be so petty, it’s just a joke.” But Freud once said, “There’s no such thing as a joke; every joke has a serious element to it.” Those who bear malice may attempt to ruin your life, tarnish your reputation, or even affect your physical and mental health through verbal attacks, physical harm, or underhanded schemes. In such cases, tolerance is definitely not the way to go.
Over-tolerance Can Lead to Escalation
Adler once stated, “It doesn’t matter if you’re spoken ill of or disliked, because how others perceive you is their issue.” So, there’s no need to care too much, nor should you try to please malicious people at the expense of yourself. No matter how hard you try, it’s unlikely to change their attitude towards you. Your tolerance might be seen as weakness by them, leading them to become even more unrestrained. It’s like dealing with a greedy snake; your kindness could be mistaken by it as an opportunity to strike harder. This kind of boundless tolerance not only harms yourself but may also involve those around you, allowing evil to spread.
Handling Methods under Feng Shui Magic
Self-Protection Strategies
Not tolerating malicious people is, in fact, a form of self-protection. Everyone has a limit to what they can endure mentally, and continuous exposure to malice can be too much for the soul to bear. We have the right to set boundaries for ourselves and reject the intrusion of malice. By firmly taking a stand and refusing to tolerate malice, you’re sending a clear message to the other party: your behavior is unacceptable, and I won’t put up with your harm.
Fight Back If You Can, Otherwise, Get Away Quickly
When confronted with malice, you can choose to fight back or to distance yourself, but the key is to avoid “toxic people.” Fighting back doesn’t mean resorting to violence; it means bravely making your stance known, letting the other person understand that you’re not someone to be messed with. But if you encounter someone who’s unreasonable and argumentative, and your attempts to fight back are futile, you should leave without hesitation. Don’t get entangled with such people, as it will only waste your time and energy and cause you unnecessary distress. Dealing with malice correctly and keeping away from “toxic people” will lead to a more peaceful life. For example, when faced with verbal attacks, you can calmly yet firmly respond, “Please watch your words; such impolite remarks are a great disrespect to others.” If the other person still doesn’t back down, there’s no need to say more; just turn around and walk away.